Talk Is Sheep

Welcome to my appreciation room for Lee. I do find the more time I spend in this room as opposed to the sea of criticism, the more content I am in our relationship. This room changes daily as I open my eyes to Lee and our experiences.

 

1. Lee loves God. Period. More than he loves me. I love that.

 

2. Lee does not enjoy everything that I enjoy. I think it took me a while to emerge from the waves of nitpicking when I realized that just because Lee enjoyed hobbies I did not, didn’t make those things wrong. I’m learning a lot about him as I begin to appreciate his love of say, video games, instead of wishing he’d spend his time doing something more productive. When I realized that I was thinking this way, I saw that I was not only placing expectations on him, but that I was judging him as well. Who am I to say that my hobbies or more worthy than his?

 

3. He is himself at all times around me. The facets of Lee are boundless. He does not hold back, does not pretend, and because of that, I don’t live in a vaccuum. I get all of Lee’s personalities – happy, crazy, mad, content, sad, annoyed, overjoyed, hyper, loving, super genius… There are some people in our lives who only see one side of Lee at all times. They don’t know what they’re missing!

 

4. He makes me feel like Priority #1. It hasn’t always been this way, and I know it isn’t easy, but he takes the time to understand me, to step away from what he’s doing if what I need is more important, to listen to me before he sleeps each night even though I know he’d rather I just shut my trap.

 

5. Lee wants to have children as much as I do. I realize that this is something that may make most men want to throw up in the first year or 20 of marriage, but when I talk about having children (in 5 years….well I guess 4 years and 3 months if we’re sticking to that schedule), Lee is right there with me. Dreaming.

 

To be continued…